Transformative Mediation: Taking a Risk and Letting Go By Andrew Thomas

Part II:

“Progress always Involves risk. You cannot steal second with your foot on first “
- Mary R.


So, what should we” let go” of?

• Let go of the need to be in control of the parties; being in control may be an illusion anyway;
  

• Let go of the uncomfortable feeling when emotions and feelings enter the conversation; there are facts in the feelings;
  

• Let go of the impatience with the parties as they take the conversation where they need to; clarity and understanding emerge from confusion;

• Let go of the need to keep the discussion future focused; discussing the past has value to the present;

• Let go of any pessimistic view of parties’ competency and motives; the parties have what it takes to resolve the situation.

Transformative mediation is an orientation which emphasizes the opportunities conflict presents for individuals to change their interaction with each other if they so chose. It also, suggests that disputing parties have the capacity for both self-determination and consideration of other perspectives in the conflict. The goal of the mediator is to foster opportunities for empowerment and recognition and enhancing the parties’ decision-making and communication.

A Transformative practice may not be for everyone. However, I recommend it as a highly effective third party intervention process that fosters understanding, creates a foundation for building relationships, and improving human interaction. For more information on Transformative Mediation contact the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation:
isct@hofstra.edu

Andrew Thomas, President
ALT Associates Conflict Management Consultants
Lake Mary, Florida
athomas@ALTassociates.com